tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3610430154861217625.post6586949976358743229..comments2024-02-29T10:14:57.263-06:00Comments on Diaristic Notations: Anger: Decision or EmotionKim Mosleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17658600791743162004noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3610430154861217625.post-52695481630921858892012-01-06T10:08:04.592-06:002012-01-06T10:08:04.592-06:00I must agree with Kate. And, I would add that thi...I must agree with Kate. And, I would add that this points to my belief that we all are equipped differently, and we all have our own path to walk. I no longer become irritated by parking lot space loss. I have managed to move beyond that. I also have triggers to angry emotions that I struggle to process and put to rest. And there are sometimes, still surprises in anger that leave me feeling as I did as a child; overwhelmed by the "bigness" of it. The same can be said for every other emotion I have, which I think are the product of our whole mind and/or being at work---not a decision on a conscious level.witchwillowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09864219367233016583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3610430154861217625.post-20651302142201243202012-01-04T10:14:24.687-06:002012-01-04T10:14:24.687-06:00Sounds like wisdom. H.Sounds like wisdom. H.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3610430154861217625.post-21079165226647678222012-01-03T15:52:35.051-06:002012-01-03T15:52:35.051-06:00I have now posted an edited comment by Ginger, wit...I have now posted an edited comment by Ginger, with the addition of a second paragraph. I like her point that anger is a good teacher and/or guide (my words).Kim Mosleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17658600791743162004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3610430154861217625.post-43195850784813815202012-01-03T13:14:35.230-06:002012-01-03T13:14:35.230-06:00How did those people get that way? Good parenting?...How did those people get that way? Good parenting? Good teachers? Smarts? --- Mr. Kim<br /><br />First, I would like to point that that most of the time when you post about anger, you use examples where anger may not necessarily seem like an appropriate response. I don’t feel as if I am the type of person who would get upset about a parking space. Actually I prefer to park far away everything and walk simply because I am uncomfortable parking in areas of heavy use where I might more likely hit something with my truck.<br /><br />Think of a child that has been physically, verbally, or sexually abused. Would you tell that child that he/she shouldn’t ‘feel’ anger? I would never do that. I feel that often when bad things happen, one has to ‘feel’ all the emotions fully in order to process what has happened and heal. One needs to be allowed that space to ‘be angry’, to ‘be sad’, and to ‘be hurt’. To me, telling that child that he or she should not ‘feel’ anger means that you are victimizing that person a second time.<br /><br />It is only by processing or feeling these emotions with awareness that we can learn to empathize with others. It is learning to empathize that allows people to shrug off superficial things such as loosing a desired parking spot.Kate Freemanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07826311771326897525noreply@blogger.com